If you read the interview in the printed magazine, you already know how they solve conflicts, what’s playing on their iPods right now and the thought process behind their latest album, Love and War. But here are some things you probably don’t know!

How do you encourage girls who don’t think of themselves as warriors?
Becca: “God has shown me that war is on my knees. So for me, war is pressing in through prayer. There are different ways we can war. I think we always see it as being a Joan of Arc and riding a horse and raising a banner. It’s funny because that’s more Alyssa’s personality. She’s like ‘I’m gonna lead the army. I’m gonna fight the battle.’

“But I’m the one warring in prayer in the spiritual field through that love relationship with the Lord. Everybody carries a different piece of that. You have to figure out what God has called you to do, because if you’re trying to war in a way or love or live in way that God hasn’t called you to, it’s gonna be hard.

“When you’re doing what you’re called to do, warring the way He made you, there’s going to be a peace. It doesn’t mean it’s not going to be hard—it’s life—but there will be a deep settled peace that only God can give.”

How do you make sure ministry doesn’t become more important that your relationship with the Lord?
Lauren: “Our devotional time as a family was established even before we got involved in music. Even now, our parents come on the road, and we make sure that the first thing we do when we get up is have devotions. Then we listen to a teaching as a family. Next, we have alone time with God. This is so essential! Without it, how can you be open and vulnerable with Him? How can He work on you and in you without this?

“We have a great support system around us, too. Family members can often see something developing within you before you’re even aware of it. They notice the attitude changes and all those other little things.”

How do you decide what to wear on stage?
Lauren: “My first priority? I have to be able to move in it. Being the drummer means that I’m very limited in what I can wear, because I have these big man-drummer arms. So I try to cover those up a little bit, but I also have to be able to move. My arms are kinda flailing everywhere. I like fashion a lot, and I like looking nice, so that’s always important. I always have to be 100 percent secure in the outfit. But right now, I’m totally into jackets.”

How do you handle days when it’s hard to be single?
Alyssa: “The things people say can make me feel like there’s something wrong with me, because I’m not doing what everybody else is. Trust me, I’m excited to be married someday! I can’t wait to meet the guy God has for me. I have to believe that when people say things that make me feel bad for not being married, they probably don’t realize what they’re saying hurts.

“Those are the days when I go to my room and just sit before God. I open my Bible and look back at the Scriptures He’s given me that remind me who I am and what my journey is.

“Even David says ‘Why are you downcast, O my soul?’ He then began to remember the goodness of God and was reminded of His faithfulness. Sometimes I pick up my journals and remember all those things that He’s spoken to me. I soak it all in again and remind myself of Who He is and why I’m here. That fuels me to keep going.

“It’s so easy to look at what you don’t have and think that God isn’t faithful. But when you compare it with all you do have, there’s never a question about His faithfulness.”

Ashley Boyer is a publicist in Colorado Springs, Colo., but secretly wishes she were a rock star so she could tour with BarlowGirl.