1. No flaming or personal attacks. Be respectful of your fellow members. These forums are to be supportive in nature. We do not allow any behavior of an attacking and malicious nature to other members. We do not allow “flaming” or name calling. If you have a personal disagreement with another member, please don't drag other members into your disagreement by posting about it. Send us a notification by using the report abuse link and/or don't engage with that person.
2. No duplicate posting (cross-posting). Everyone is encouraged to post in whatever forums they feel comfortable or in multiple forums as they wish. Please do NOT post duplicate copies of the same post in multiple forums. If your post or another member's post gets closed, don't start a new thread to attempt to continue replying to the closed topic. Posts that are a continuation of a closed post will themselves be closed.
3. No posts discussing a celebrity or person you know that relate to a suspected, rumored or confirmed negative behavior. We do not promote gossip or negative speculation about the lives of others.
4. No numbers relating to weight control (weights, clothing size, BMI, calories, etc.). No use of numbers (related to weight, calories, bmi, clothing size, desired weight-loss goal, how many days you've gone without eating, how many times you've purged, how many laxatives you've taken, etc.). This is not the appropriate forum for information of this nature and may pose as a trigger for other struggling girls.
5. No "tips" or "bragging" about anything that encourages others to self-harm. No sharing "tips" on how to perpetuate self-harming behavior — including tips on how to lose weight, purge, cut, or any other self-destructive behaviors that may go along with self-harming. We do not allow any type of "bragging" about your behaviors or positive comments about self-harm.
6. No "tips" or "bragging" about anything that encourages others in sinful behavior. This is a Christian site. There is to be no sharing of glamorized or positive stories about sinful behavior, promotion of sin or sinful behavior or bragging about your own sinful behavior or that or others.
7. No suicide notes. Suicidal posts or "goodbye" letters related to suicide are not allowed. Posts of a suicidal nature or that appear to be goodbye letters because a person is contemplating suicide will be closed and the member will be referred to real-time help from their family members or doctors and to a list of hotlines where they can seek help immediately. The God of the Universe thought you were worth making and loves you infinitely. We take that very seriously.
8. No serious medical questions (example: chest pains, throwing up blood, passing out) — we'll have to refer you to your doctor. These types of posts are not allowed. If you have physical medical complications that show you are in immediate danger, or if you have questions related to medications, the best anyone can do is refer you to realtime help. If you are attempting to figure out what is wrong (or for a diagnosis), you need to go to your doctor. If you want to share an experience or are looking just to relate with another and you are NOT in immediate danger, that may be okay, but moderators and administrators will evaluate on a post-by-post basis.
9. No links to negative & triggering websites (sites that encourage others to self-harm or participate in sinful behavior). You may NOT post a link to a website, your own or someone else's, that is specifically negative and triggering, that encourages visitors to participate in self-harming or sinful behaviors, that brags about participating in self-harm or sinful behavior, considers self-harming or sinful behavior an achievement or lifestyle, and/or that contains triggering content.
10. Use common sense. Don't post your address or phone number. Don't use your last name. Don't post personal contact and/or location information. Don't post information like your phone number or address for you own safety. Your actual e-mail address is not visible through your profile, so if you share that with other members, you do so at your own risk (we cannot be responsible for the ramifications). You also may not post this type of personal information about another person, whether they are a member here or not. Do not violate another member's privacy by posting personal information about them or by copying a post they have here and putting it on another site or elsewhere.
Additional Points to Keep in Mind ...
The word "fat" will be edited out of almost all post titles. With rare exception, we will not allow a post with the word "fat" in it, such as "I'm so fat" or "I feel fat." Fat is not a feeling.
Posts regarding SI/SIV (Self Injury/Self Inflicted Violence — also known as "cutting"). Posts related to SI/SIV should be placed in the Healing Prayer - Self Injury Forum. Many people are triggered by these types of posts and that is why there is a forum specifically related to this topic. Posts about SI/SIV in other forums will be deleted. Within the Self Injury Forum, posts with graphic details of self injury or abuse are prohibited and will be deleted. No tips, bragging or encouragement to self-harm will be tolerated.
Posts regarding Eating Disorders. Posts related to eating disorders should be placed in the Healing Prayer - Eating Disorders Forum. Many people are triggered by these types of posts and that is why there is a forum specifically related to this topic. Posts about eating disorders in other forums will be deleted. Within the Eating Disorders Forum, posts with graphic details of self injury or abuse are prohibited and will be deleted. No tips, bragging or encouragement to engage in an eating disorder will be tolerated.
Report Abuse
You can click on the Report Abuse link to report a post to the administration of the site and the moderators of a particular forum.
Why Would I Use the Report Abuse link?
Message board communities are about the members. Members make the community what it is. Administrators and Moderators are human — they can't possibly read every post, so the “report abuse” system helps us to spot something we might otherwise miss.
If you see someone is violating one of the rules, there's no need to get nasty about it ... just send us a notification by clicking the report abuse link. The administrators or one of the moderators will review the post and decide if any action needs to be taken.
Sending us a notification reporting abuse doesn't always mean a post will be closed — but the administrators and moderators will review it and try to make the most appropriate decision and take action (if any) that is fair and objective.
Report Abuse information is always kept private and confidential. We do not reveal to anyone who sends notifications about whom.